Wednesday, February 21, 2007
My friend ask me "what is love"? I told her love is sour sweet bitter spicy.. when u see him with another gal, u feel jealous that sour. When both of u together feeling happy and in ur own world that sweet. When u feel heartache, that bitter. When both of u have heated argument, that spicy. Love shd be when he happy, u will feel happy. When he feel sad, u will feel sad too. When he sick, u will feel heartache and worry for him. Whatever mood he having will affect u. Love is something that u will do anything for him just to make him happy no matter how silly it is. Love is if u really care abt his feeling and want him to be happy, u will let him go no matter how much how deep u love him. U rather sacrific urself....Love is whatever u do for him, u feel is worth it and u have no regrets at all....
What do you? What ur view on love??
For you <3 1:19 PM
Saturday, February 17, 2007
他和她[她]
在巴黎的一间露天咖啡座，我们已经沉默了十分钟。最后，还是我忍不住先开口。“你。。。真的不再爱我了？”“对不起。。。”“为什么？”“我真的很感谢你当初对我的欣赏。。。我也尝试过接受你。。。但是。。。我们。。。真的没有办法再继续下去了。。。”他看着我，认真的对我说道。“请原谅我的决定。。。我相信你会找到比我更好的。。。”“不！”我立刻打断了他的话语。“给我一点时间好吗？你对我不满意的地方，我一定会改。。。”我牢牢的抓住了他的手，然后说道。他给了我一个浅笑，然后缓缓的拨开了我的手。“不要这样。。。你是一个好女孩。。。不要再把时间浪费在我身上了。。。希望你能够明白我的意思。。。”
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他]
离开了露天咖啡座的我，心情格外轻松。当初和她的交往，是我一时之错。虽然我真的不忍心看她流下泪光的脸庞，可是我知道我真的不能再拖下去了。於是，我终於鼓起了最大的勇气，对她说出了我心里的话。这样，对我们彼此都好。“小心！”突然，我感觉到有人从后面很用力的推了我一下。而当我再次转过身的时候，我才赫然发现，是她，刚刚救了我，但自己却来不及闪避那辆汽车。“莉！你怎么样了？！”我以最快的速度赶了过去，把她紧紧的拥入怀里。“你为什么这么傻？！”我不解的继续问道。“对。。。对不起。。。这是。。。我能够继续爱你的。。。唯一。。。方式。。。”听到她这么说，我眼里的泪水终於按捺不住，夺眶而出。
[她]
“快叫救护车！！！”我听到他对着迅速围观者大声喊道。
[他]
“你撑住。。。救护车马上就到了。。。”我把目光转回到她身上。
[她]
这时轮到我给了他一个浅笑，然后对他轻轻的摇了摇头。我忽然觉得，虽然知道自己真的快撑不住了，但被他这样拥在怀里，真的好幸福。从来都没有尝过这种滋味的我，意外的发现到，原来这种感觉。。。好美。。。好美。。。“你知道吗？爱上你。。。然后又能和你在一起。。。是我这一生中最幸福的事。。。”我将一只微弱的手，慢慢的移向他的脸庞。“你一定要撑住。。。你不会有事的。。。”他急切的又对我说道，然后把我拥得更紧了。啊！我真的好想把这一刻，化为永恒。“伟。。。我爱你。。。”当我听见远处传来的救护车的声响，我已缓缓的闭上了双眼。。。
For you <3 11:09 PM
The Rise & Fall of Vedana (Feeling)When the mind is still and free from both desire and aversion, it sees that sukha vedana (pleasant feeling) is no more than a pause between two moments of dukkha vedana (unpleasant feeling). Indeed, you can also discern that the intensity of the pleasure in sukha vedana is directly proportional to the degree of unpleasantness that went just before, and the intensity of the pain in dukkha vedana is measured by the amount of happiness that you have just lost.In a chilling book describing imprisonment and torture as a political prisoner in Argentina during the 1970s, an author relates that his most painful experience was not the beatings or the sessions on “Susan” (the name the guard gave to the electric shock torture machine). The worst moment, after endless months of imprisonment, was when his persecutors handed him a letter from his wife. He had blotted out from his mind all memory of the happy years before prison in order to cope with the terror and hopelessness of the present. That letter brought up many warm memories of his wife and family, and made the darkness and agony of his situation even more unbearable. He cursed his wife for sending that letter and screamed deep inside, louder than he ever had under electric shock. As this story graphically illustrates, the intensity of your pain or discontent is proportional to the degree of the happiness that you recall has now vanished.
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For you <3 11:08 PM
Realisation: The 5C’s of a Spiritual MarriageThe way I look at it, a happy spiritual marriage should have these 5 C’s -
1. Commitment : This is obvious. If each can't totally commit to the other, there's no need to talk about marriage in the first place. Why commit half-heartedly for life? Why live half a lie, while seeking the truth on the spiritual path?
2. Compassion : At times, different opinions and views might arise. Mutual compassion is needed to ensure conflicts or grudges are resolved with understanding. Both need to see that to be resentful is to hurt each other. When we are unkind, we lose our spirituality in the moment.
3. Cultivation : Right spiritual cultivation results in wisdom, with which one will do less wrong, while becoming more virtuous to each other and for the world at large. Commitment above is not just to each other, but to a common spiritual goal too. Without the latter, the marriage is a mundane union, not a spiritual one. The Bodhisattva (Buddha-to-be) before his enlightenment is said to have cultivated together with Yasodhara for 500 lives as husband and wife.
4. Communication : A relationship without sufficient communication is not a working relationship because the true essence of what makes a healthy living spiritual relationship live is the continual exchange of kind and wise thoughts (not bodily fluids!), which better each other. Learning and sharing the Dharma together makes any relationship spiritual, whether it is also carnal or not.
5. Choice : Commitment, as mentioned above, should not be mistaken as attachment to each other. In other words, there is always freedom of choice for each party. Freedom in the sense that though the couple might be largely agreeable on many issues, they are still free to see certain issues from their individual perspectives. If both parties are exactly alike, they might as well have married themselves or stayed single! Ultimately, choice here also refers to the generosity of being able to gladly let the other party go should one choose to renounce the relationship for a spiritual or even mundane cause. –Zlyrica + Shen Shi'an (from
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For you <3 11:06 PM
LoveRecently saw this movie call "Happy Birthday". I like this movie very much and I cry from beginning of the show till ending. This movie was abt 2 lovers name xiao nan and xiao mi. They know each other since university and everyone around them think they will be the 1st couple to get married. But fate seem to play with them. They were together then separate then together then separate or mayb they never really separate. They really love each other but xiao mi has no confidence in relationship at all. She told xiao nan that they remain as gd friends better because lovers might break up one day but gd friends will not break up at all. So because of that, they patch , separate, patch , separate for many times. Xiao nan never give up this relationship at all and he willing to wait for Xiao mi to change her mind. Every year he will sms her to wish her happy birthday. When Xiao mi went Japan to further her studies, Xiao nan will find time to keep Xiao mi father company. He told her dad, no matter how long he will wait for Xiao mi to change her mind and will never give up this relationship. This drag for many yrs and once Xiao nan even ask Xiao mi to leave japan with him and back to HK but she rejected. Finally, Xiao mi came back to HK without finishing her studies. Everybody knows that it because of Xiao nan but she too proud to admit it.One day, she received a sms from him saying he getting married to another gal. Xiao mi was shattered and it was too late to save the relationship. But still he will sms her to wish her happy birthday every yr. The truth is Xiao nan did not married , he had cancer and he did not want Xiao mi to know abt his illness and he dont want her to be sad so he lie to her. Even 4 years later he passed away, he even ask his sis to sms her on his behalf to Xiao mi without letting her know that he had passed away. He wants her to remember him forever and he alway remember her.After watching this movie, I feel very touched and I really envious Xiao mi to have such devoted lover. I respect Xiao nan love and devotion. This is really call true love. He dont mind to wait for Xiao mi for so long, 10 years But I somehow fed up with Xiao mi, if she really love him, why want to separate with him , she dont treasure him at all.I also envious her that she got such a devoted lover. I totally agree with Xiao nan that if you really love a person, you wont mind how long you got to wait for the person. This is call true love.I actually in the same situation as well. The man I love wanted to focus in his career and ask for time out. I was shocked but of cos I do not want that. But like what Xiao nan say, if you really love a person, you would not mind to wait for him no matter how long . It might sound stupid and not worth it, but I think if really love a person, you will tend to do a lot of stupid things to attract his or her attention, right? No matter what the person did to you,you will still forgive him or her.It just a matter of time. But if already make up mind to wait for the person, then must have no regret at all. For what I think is worth to wait ..
For you <3 11:01 PM
